Holiday Seasonal and Blog Linky Fun

Storms may come and go but Gods love and Word are forever-Christian encouragement via Kaye Swain REALTORAging in Place. That's our goal for as long as possible. But it can have many faces. When my grandparents' health started to deteriorate, my parents moved in with them to help. When my grandparents on the other side of the family had health issues, they opted for assisted living for years. Then they moved in with my parents for the last few months of my grandfather's life. In both cases, it was a blessing to see the great example my parents set. And a blessing to get to spend extra time with each set of grandparents in the twilight of their lives even though it was followed shortly by a bittersweet season of grief and loss

Fast forward two decades. When my dad's Parkinson's Disease progressed, my parents moved into my home. This was something I had anticipated and we had several aging in place options already installed. They moved in around June. A few months later, when I was out at a lovely Thanksgiving church musicale, my dad's simple cold turned into pnuemonia and I had to leave the service early to take him to the hospital.

Thanksgiving was less joyfilled the year my dad got so sick-via Kaye Swain

I still remember how scared and concerned I felt as I drove to the house to pick them both up. Once there we worked with the palliative care team who prescribed hospice for him. What a shock! Here we were, in the midst of a season of joy and merriment, being hit hard as we entered a slow and sad journey down the "valley of the shadow of death."

It was a difficult holiday season for our family. I look back on it now, remembering many of the sad happenings but grateful there were also lovely lovely family memories sprinkled throughout. It was truly one of the most difficult times of my life! We didn't put many decorations up, that's for sure! But we were blessed throughout with the help of our beloveds and we came out on the other side grateful for the comforting presence of God throughout. 

You may have to go easy on the decorations but Christmas can still be a sweet blessing even in the midst of sorrow grief and loss

During any of the holidays, you may be dealing with end of life issues, as we were. Or you may be in the throes of ongoing caregiving needs, as I am now. Or you may know of a friend or relative dealing with these issues – again, I am right there with you. Any and all of these are a challenge at any time, but especially so during the holiday seaons. 

Because of a loved one's situation, I went to one of my favorite resources for dealing with grief and sorrow – Griefshare.Org. I again signed up for their free one-year subscription of daily emails.  I was blessed with these when my dad passed away. I've shared this info with others who have dealt with loss. I had a friend who lost a beloved pet who was very comforted by them. I can't recommend them highly enough. And if you aren't sure a friend can or will sign up, you can sign up yourself and share individual ones with that friend – which can be as much a blessing to you as them. Such a great resource!

In addition to their onliine options, they provide grief care groups in various local churches all over the country. During the season of Thanksgiving through Christmas, they may have a special holiday seminar to provide support, encouragement, and practical stress-reducing ideas that will help you face and survive the holidays. If it is November – December, check their webiste for the holiday seminar link. I typed in my zip code and found five churches offering this seminar within 10 – 30 minutes of me. I checked zip codes for several of my loved ones. If you live in the country, it might be a further drive but the farthest I found was about an hour away. The course time varied with the location from 1- 2 hours for the seminar. 

They also have various articles dealing with holiday grief.  CLICK HERE to read them. And to sign up for the daily emails, CLICK HERE

If you or a loved one of any age – including elderly seniors – are dealing with the pain and suffering that come with grief and sorrow, I would definitely encourage you to check out GriefShare.org along with their free daily email newsletters and other excellent resources including season holiday options. My family and I have been blessed by their ministry and I am hoping you and yours will be as well. 

 

Gods light can still shine at Christmas even in the midst of grief and loss-pain and suffering

Beverly's Got so many cute pink things each Saturday including lovely homes and home decor - great for creative ideas when you are moving to a new home

 

 

 

My prayer for the United States - leaders and all - to follow Jesus - the LIGHT of the world - on this patriotic holiday and beyondTis the season! No, it's not time for jingle bells. It's time for a Patriotic Holiday full of FIREWORKS and patriotic music FUN. Which I enjoy, as do my grandkids. But the granddogs aren't so fond of them and even my senior mom occasionally gets a bit nervous if there are very loud ones near by. So I just keep reminding her it's almost Independence Day and if it were to really bother her, I'd have her keep music or her TV on more often. So far, it's been fairly quiet but I suspect this week it will get a bit noisier each day. How about you?

And, as far as taking her out to see any fireworks, she hasn't wanted to do that for years. She and my dad used to live in Hawaii (The climate was great for his Parkinson's Disease so he could keep walking and active all year. It was a real blessing!). They enjoyed fireworks over the water many times during their stay there. But once they were back on the mainland, she was just not that keen. She has very VERY good hearing and the snap crackle and pop get to her.

When the grandkids are in town, I often enjoy watching fireworks with them and that's a real treat. But when they are off visiting friends or family, I usually just watch a few on TV or YouTube while working on real estate projects and then call it a night. If you're in the same situation, or perhaps caregiving is keeping you close to home, here is a grand 30 minute video for both of us as well as our senior parents. I bet even my mom will like it – no noise – just lots of grand patriotic music  by U.S. Military Bands. 

Weren't those lovely! And didn't you enjoy the rousing patriotic music. That's actually my favorite part of any patriotic holiday. It's so stirring! A delightful time for a delightful week. Have a blessed and beautiful and SAFE holiday – in OR out of the Sandwich Generation. 🙂 

P.S. Want to listen to even more patriotic music during this holiday week – some with and some without fireworks? Cick here to find my patriotic music playlist at YouTube. 🙂 

Fun for boomer and senior grandparents in OR out of the Sandwich Generation at the Grand Social