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Multigenerational caregiving families can come in a variety of sizes and combinations. My senior mom and I are a small "multigenerational family" always looking for ways to ensure we have plenty of aging in place options for my mom and great caregiving options to help her and me along the way.
This is a cute home for aging in place options


At one point, right after my grand-twins were born with health issues, their family moved in with us. Then we were a BIG Roseville California "multigenerational family" of four generations. A "multigenerational family" could mean a grandchild and a grandparent…or a nephew and aunt…or a niece and great-aunt…or two friends of different generations who are helping care for one or for each other….and the list goes on. 


When I lived in one home for 17 years, my kids had FOUR sets of "adopted grandparents" in the wonderful neighbors who lived there. And those sweet senior neighbors gained extra eyes and hands when they needed help along with tons of hugs from my kids and us. It was a great extended "family." Yesterday, we listened to a class on "thinking outside the box" at my Keller Williams real estate brokerage and boy, multigenerational caregiving and helping is such a great example of that, isn't it?


Of course, with those different extended family and caregiver scenarios come a variety of different needs in a home and yard. You might think  "get a single-story home. That will solve the whole problem." But I looked at two single story homes today. One would not be very practical for a multigenerational family with an elderly relative. It was gorgeous. But it had a sunken living room. I know ME! I'm sure I'd manage to forget and trip on that at least once….maybe even once a month! 🙂 I'd get busy, focus on my paperwork or sending a text, and whap. Most likely I'd just end up with a bit of an embarrassed smile. But if my senior mom lived there and forgot, which she easily could, she could end up in the hospital like a good friend of ours is right now. As much as I love the concept of sunken living rooms – they're really cute – I would probably not recommend them to boomers and seniors who want good aging in place options,especially with elderly relatives visiting or living with them.

The second house I looked at offered great possiblities for an extended family situation. It has been beautifully updated with a gorgeous, restful decor. One of the bathrooms has my favorite kind of shower for anyone and especially for elderly seniors – easy access and benches to sit on. 

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There are three bedrooms and a den that could easily be another good-sized bedroom with the addition of an armoir. More "thinking outside the box" that is quite handy for flexible living arrangements.

An armoire can be a big help for those caring for elderly parents and needing to turn a room into a bedroom

And there's a laundry room that should be able to handle whatever size washer and dryer you might have. Always a good thing for an extended family with lots of laundry. In our last home, we had to keep the laundry area's folding doors open all the time because the extra large washer was a bit too big for the space. On those occasions when all the grandkids were visiting or my senior mom was recuperating from a surgery, that big washing machine was worth its weight in gold. It definitely was great to have – even with the open door in the midst of the living room/dining room area. Still a laundry room with this kind of space would definitely be handy for oversized and much needed laundry appliances.

A nice size laundry room that can hold a large washer dryer is a big help for a multigenerational family

And, of course, I always give the back yard a good check out – if you have kids or grandkids, you really appreciate a nice play area like this one – with plenty of room for a nice big swing set. 

A great play-set for the grandkids or a multigenerational family


These are some of the vital things I look for in a home for my own multigenerational family to provide us with plenty of aging in place options for my senior mom, as well as recommend to my real estate clients. How about you? Can you add anything to my list? We'd love to hear.


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Bath mats are important safety tools for the Sandwich GenerationBig changes are coming! The seasons are ready to switch from summer to fall, the sports games are switching to football, and our Sandwich Generation family is switching sides of the U.S. As a result, I've already got some new tips to help all of us involved in moving with elderly parents and/or young kids or grandkids.

Moves often involve staying at hotels and this was no exception. I was reminded of two concerns to share:

1. ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS check the windows and door locks of your hotel room – and that of your elderly parents – as soon as you check in. I usually do but on this particular occasion I was on the run with several interruptions and just plain forgot. Later that night as I prepped for bed, I noticed the hotel's safetly checklist, scanned it, and was reminded to check the windows. I immediately headed for the curtains, pulled them back and – would you believe it! – the lock had been totally broken off! 

I called the front desk and they came up quickly to check. Apologizing profusely, they moved me to a new room which I certainly appreciated. But, as tired as I was, I sure wish I'd checked sooner!

2. Don't forget to check the bathrooms as well. This is especially vital for unsteady seniors (not to mention young kids or grandkids). The hotel I stayed at was new and lovely and part of a chain I often use. I really like it BUT I was not happy when I almost slipped on their marble (?) bathroom floor when I stepped off the towel I had used as a bathmat.  I then noticed the bathtub did NOT have a a no-slip surface OR a tub mat. I was OK but I am definitely going to be asking for disability rooms for my senior mom AND packing a bath mat on future trips. Falls can be especially traumatic for aging seniors and carrying a small mat in a plastic bag is an easy solution to a possible problem. For that matter, it can be a good safety precaution for our young kids and grandkids as well.

How about you? Any hotel tips for yong or old to share? We'd love to hear. 

P.S. Keep checking back as I'll have plenty more tips and resources to help multigenerational caregivers who are in moving with OR in with senior parents! 🙂 


Say it Saturday is a fun linkup for all of us boomers and seniors including grandparents writing about their grandkids

Fun for grandparents - in AND out of the Sandwich Generation - at Grand Social