grandparents and grandchildren

Notice this home has no steps leading up to the door - zero step entry.jpgHi there and welcome to a special post that is part of the #Blog4Care blog carnival being hosted by Caring Across Generations. We hope that by sharing our caregiving stories, we can begin to come up with solutions to the care crisis that is affecting millions of Americans.

Most of the homes I have bought or rented over the years have been older ones. One was only five years old. Three or four were built in the 1940s-70s. One was a Craftsman home built in 1925! And one of my loved ones beat that with a gorgeous 1900 vintage home. But I have enjoyed buying one house when it was brand new construction. That gave me the opportunity to have a wishlist of aging in place options that I added to it – even though I didn't realize that's what they were. And yes! That was a lot of fun!!! 🙂

My wish list then was based on my family needs at the time, including my senior dad having Parkinsons Disease that was progressing. I knew there was an excellent chance he and my mom would eventually move in with me – and they did. So I made sure the walls were wide enough to be wheelchair accessible, as well as the sidewalk in the backyard. I added plenty of grab bars. I didn't know enough, then, to ask for a zero step entry, but was blessed by one anyway! 🙂 Even then, the threshold was bumpy enough, we eventually added a little wheelchair ramp that helped me as I pushed him in and out of the house. But not having any steps in the front really helped! 

Nowawadays, if I was buying new construction, I would have a much longer wish list that would make a home even more practical for my senior mom, myself, and anyone else who visits or lives there, be it senior citizen or my young grandkids. Simple age in place options and universal designs that don't necessarily cost a lot, but add a lot to peace of mind and easier senior living. Things like:

Pretty in pink this bathroom sink is also practical for elderly seniors who want good aging in place options

  • Single story home if at all possible
  • Easy to use handles for sinks, showers, and door handles throughout the home – probably lever-style like in the photo above
  • I love the new concept of showers with no threshold at the bottom so you can just wheel into it if necessary – but only if it can also have doors. Otherwise it might be too chilly for an elderly parent.
  • Seats in the shower 
  • At least one good size bathroom that allows for a wheelchair or walker someday (two if it is a two story home)
  • Raised toilets or handicapped toilets throughout the home that aren't necessarily super tall but aren't really low to the ground either – allowing for ease of use by all
  • Grab bars by each toilet, each tub/shower, and in lieu of towel racks as well
  • If it's two story – a bedroom and a bathroom WITH a shower and/or accessible tub on the main floor – one that's big enough for wheelchairs or walkers
  • If it's two story – a laundry room on the main floor (my sweet mom lives for her laundry 🙂 )
  • Plenty of cupboard space in the kitchen, including options down below for those using a wheelchair or young grandkids. I always used to keep my main dishes down below when my kids were young, just so they could easily get to them.
  • When possible, appliances down at easy reach for wheelchair use.
  • Flooring that is safe for all ages. I personally like carpets but not too high to make a wheelchair easier. The blue carpet below would be OK but an even tighter weave makes the wheels work easier. And I love Armstrong's vinyl tile that looks like gorgeous stone, brick, etc. but is easy to clean and less slippery. I had a real stone floor entry-way in my home before, and that helped contribute to my broken ankle. 

This blue carpet should work ok for a wheelchair or a rollator tho even less plush makes it even easier

I realize many of you reading this are not in a wheelchair. Neither am I. BUT I spent a few weeks in one when I had to deal with a temporary disability due to my broken ankle and would greatly have appreciated all of these excellent senior solutions. They are also a benefit to an elderly senior whose range of motion has been curtailed due to aging or falls. And I know my grandkids would all appreciate many of these options. That's what I love about Universal Design – it really is designed for universal use. I can't urge builders strongly enough to think about simple things like these that would be such a blessing to so many including our beloved senior citizens. Not to mention the fact that it seems like they would be excellent selling points to help them market their properties, as well as help their buyers in so many ways – especially with the Silver Tsunami that is going on. 🙂

I was just talking to real estate clients about all these concepts this week. They, too, have senior parents who may be moving in with them eventually and were also starting to think along these lines. And with that "Silver Tsunami" coming quickly, we are all hoping awareness will start to escalate and give everyone more and better choices in the years to come.

How about you? Are you caring for elderly parents at home or thinking about it? Or perhaps helping senior parents with practical aging in place options? Do you have any more ideas for this list? We'd love to hear them. Don't forget to check out the other posts in this #Blog4Care blog carnival. And have a grand week! 🙂

Fun for grandparents - in OR out of the Sandwich Generation at the Grand Social

Kaye Swain Keller Williams REALTOR visits boomer and grandparent Kathryn Ross The Writers Reverie

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One of the things we learn in life and in the Bible is that there ARE perks to getting older. Gaining more wisdom can be one of those. A couple of years ago, after a surgery, an elderly friend of mine was NOT happy with my suggestion of a stool in the shower like this one I saw while previewing homes in this week.. She tolerated it as long as she was recuperating but couldn't wait to get it out of the tub. Part of the problem was that hers was in a bathtub which made it a bit more tricky to navigate. Part of it was hating to admit she needed it. It wasn't, dare I say it, "Cool." 

Aging in Place shower in a gorgeous condo is a good reminder of the Word of God Acquire Wisdom .jpg

The last time we discussed this subject though, I was happy to hear she had modified her stance and realized how useful they can be in tubs OR showers! It's definitely much safer in case of a dizzy spell, a bit of wobbliness, or just to take a rest and enjoy the soothing water in the midst of a shower.

I just wish more houses had showers or tubs big enough to make a stool more convenient. OR came with built-in shower seats. They come in handy for so many reasons including visiting grandkids and broken ankles. And they're especially helpful for all of our beloveds with any kind of health issue – be they elderly or not. 

For now though, I'll be grateful for my senior friend's taking the advice of the Bible to "Acquire Wisdom," and hope and pray daily for wisdom for myself and my senior mom as well as we navigate this season of life. If I have to choose (and you have no idea how much it pains us baby boomers to admit this) I'd much rather be on the safe side as opposed to the cool side. How about you?

P.S. Join fellow grandparents, boomers and seniors and more at Grandma's BriefsPink Saturday and Spiritual Sunday for sweet smiles and lovely encouragement.