Sandwich Generation

When we bought a brand new home a few years ago, we made sure it was big enough for my elderly parents to be able to move in if necessary. My senior dad had been dealing with Parkinson's Disease for over 10 years and we knew that was probably going to be a necessity down the road. Even if not, they would be over visiting a lot, so we also made sure the bathrooms had grab bars and the living room had a chair he could get in and out of easily.

Since the house was only half built, we had several options available to us. We picked vinyl tile so he wouldn't be hurt if he fell. We picked a tight carpet with no ends to trip him. We made sure the sidewalks were wide enough for a wheelchair. When I asked him if there was anything else we needed to think of, I was surprised by his answer.

He asked that we have an elongated toilet seat in each of the bathrooms. Practically speaking, he knew it was getting harder and harder for him to stand and an elongated toilet seat made it much easier for him when he was in the bathroom. They actually let him be a bit more independent a bit longer. That's a great thing in ANY senior's book. It's also a wonderful thing for those of us taking care of the elderly relatives in our family!!!

Years later, after my sweet dad was safely home in heaven, my senior mom and I moved to a very old home and had to make some small bathroom renovations. We spent lots of fun hours going over various small bathroom designs and really enjoyed ourselves as we made all of our choices. Since we had to put in a new toilet, I did a ton of research to find one that worked effectively in spite of the requirements for low flow toilets. We finally settled on a Toto toilet.

Love the Toto Soft Close Toilet Seat

Little did I know that the Toto soft close toilet seat, which came standard with our particular model, would be a wonderful solution to a minor problem for our Sandwich Generation family. With several little grandkids over quite a bit, and most in the process of potty training, the quiet soft close toilet seat never once made the loud crashing sound a normal toilet seat makes when it's dropped. As most of us grandparents know, that loud banging sound is often part and parcel of a grandkids' potty training process. But the Toto soft close toilet seat can't crash down, even if you try! While the clanging of a toilet seat doesn't bother me, it was a true gift for my senior mom not to have to hear that! And, in case you are wondering, we loved the Toto toilet, itself, as well! :)

I find it fascinating that two small bathroom designs could make such a big difference for each of my senior parents. But isn't that often the way things go. As my own grandma used to tell me, "good things come in small packages." Whether it's an elongated toilet seat or a soft close toilet seat, it certainly has worked out well for our Sandwich Generation family! How about you? Do you or your elderly parents have a favorite toilet seat that makes life easier. We'd love to hear about it. And we'd love to have you sign up for the FREE SandwichINK Real Estate Info email to keep you up to date on real estate info and resources for the Sandwich Generation. 

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Brick and brick siding give you beautiful, long-lasting, and low-maintenance homes.

House buyers in my family all love brick

It's important, as house buyers, to consider the maintenance costs and upkeep requirements for the outside of your home, when deciding which house to purchase. Since being in the Sandwich Generation usually keeps us quite busy with senior home care giving, easy maintenance is definitely at the top of my list! :)

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Are you considering buying an older house, either because you love the era or because you need the space for your Sandwich Generation multi-generational family? These can be wonderful investment properties / homes, especially in this market. Fixer-uppers are often great ways to save money and the older the house, the more likely you are to find a fixer. Just make sure you go into this with your eyes wide open. This is especially true if you are buying it as-is.

  1. Follow all the usual and practical steps like getting a good home inspection from a reputable company.
  2. Consider buying a home warranty even if the seller isn't offering it. In order to save your valuable time and money, I'd recommend the extended coverage, at least for the first year.
  3. Be aware that, with an older house, even if it passes inspection the warranty company may disallow certain repairs. Read your warranty carefully and if you are concerned a problem might not be covered, see if you can get a couple of free estimates from various companies first. If you then discover the problem is covered, that's great. If not, you'll be ahead of the game with the estimates done.
  4. No matter how tight your budget is, try to allow a few days to clean, do basic repairs and move some items in BEFORE you move your family in. Otherwise you, your aging parents, and your kids/grandkids could find yourselves in your new-to-you home with no heat, no hot water, and no energy to want to deal with it. (Yes, this happened to good friends of mine. :) )
  5. If you're planning on sharing this house with an elderly parent, be sure there is a bed and bath on the first floor for them. While many aging parents can still handle the stairs, you will all be caught off guard if they get sick. Trust me, those stairs will seem like a million miles long with a sick elderly parent and no first floor accommodations.
  6. If there will be young children/grandchildren living with you as well, look carefully when you are in the market as house buyers. See if the house offers enough separated areas to give your elderly parents and your kids/grandkids at least a tiny space away from each other. At the end of the day, everyone's nerves will appreciate that. Many older houses do offer that, but I've seen plenty of other homes that have lots of square footage due to huge rooms. But there's not that many actual rooms to give elderly parents some much needed privacy.
  7. Elderly parents can sometimes be a bit unsteady on their feet. Many older houses are a bit uneven when it comes to the flooring. When you are making up your "house buyers" list, make sure you keep fall protection at the top of the list.
  8. Check the surrounding neighborhood thoroughly. Make sure it is a safe environment for the wee ones to play in and has a good area for senior parents to walk in. Check the sidewalks for adequate width for wheelchairs, trikes, and scooters. As with any house purchase, it's always wise to visit a house you are interested in several times during both daytime and nighttime hours to get a true feel for the neighborhood. Talking to neighbors can be helpful too. You probably won't get the full scoop, but you might learn some valuable tips that can help you make your decision. Checking the internet for any Megan's Law violaters in the immediate area is also a wise idea. I usually go to Google and type "megan's law AND State"  (putting in the name of the state you will be living in where it says state :) ).

As Sandwich Generation senior home care givers and grandparents, we wear a lot of hats and have to juggle more needs than most. Hopefully this list will give you, as house buyers, a good starting point for house hunting with an emphasis on a big, older house. If you have more ideas, we'd love to have you share them.  Also, be sure to sign up for the free SandwichINK Real Estate Info email so you'll get the latest info and resources direct to your email. :)

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